Preventing Affairs

It is getting to be that time of year.  Each day seems busier and busier.  And busy can sometimes mean more stress.  If you are struggling in your relationship then add even more stress to the equation.  Amidst all the business I wanted to make sure I took a few minutes to write a little bit about affair prevention.  I know I spend a lot of time writing about prevention but there is some important information about preventing affairs that I really want people to know.

Lynne Atwater, author of books on infidenltiy, found that for women who seem to be "progressing" slowly toward having an affair, a big influence is whether or not their friends have had affairs and whether they are talking about it.  So, if a woman is attracted to someone, or has already begun contemplating having an affair she is much more likely to continue further down that road if she has a friend who has had an affair and talks about it in a positive way.  The woman then begins to feel as if itis maybe not such a big deal and it may be worth it.  She may even start to feel she deserves to be treated well by a lover since her husband seems not to. 

If you've been stung by an affair once or you are teetering on the edge yourself, be aware how you may be influenced by the women around you.

Blessings,

Barbara

Though almost all couples tend to scoff at the idea that either partner in their pair will have an affair when they walk down the isle, we know that sad truth.  Anywhere from 30-40 percent of married people have an affair.  That may seem really shocking. But there it is.  There are certain things partners can be aware of and do/not do to help make it a lot less likely that one partner or the other will have an affair.  Today, I want to