Your Relationship: Keeping it Positive

How often do you stop to think about the qualities that first drew you to your mate?  When was the last time you thought about those dreamy eyes?  How often to you stop to appreciate his/her fabulous sense of humor? Or, that passion for justice? That incredible sense of integrity that makes you so proud? 

When we are deluged by the details of mundane daily life we can forget about those qualities that at one time used to captivate us.  If you are like many couples you don't often think of these things anymore.  If you do its probably fleeting or during an extraordinary moment when you go, "oh, yeah."  Do an experiment.  Take a few minutes to sit alone, uninterrupted.  Close your eyes, take a few deep breaths and recall moments from early in your relationship when you were courting.  Go back to some of those moments in a very specific way.  Visualize some of the moments you shared.  Think about where you were, what was going on, what you were doing, what you were saying to each other and recall how you felt about any of those great qualities your partner possessed at that moment.  To make the visualization more powerful, instead of your seeing it as if you are watching it in front of you like a movie, put yourself in the middle of the scene.  Think of it as surroundsound, if you will.  It's not going on in front of you but all around you.  After a few minutes focusing on a few scenes notice how you feel about your partner and those qualities.  Use this opportunity to enhance your positive and loving feelings toward your partner.  If the two of you have been having a rough time lately, use this exercise to help you shift to a more positive frame of mind.  Once there, let more positive and loving behaviors flow from those thoughts and feelings. 

Until next time....

I wish you a happy relationship.